Do you know your self worth?

Self Worth is something many women lack in today's society. They wanna be loved so bad that they will go out of their way to let any ole man be in their life. I for one know all too well what it's like to lack self worth. I've been there done that. I wanted to be loved so bad. So I just jumped around from guy to guy to guy trying to fill a void that they couldn't fill. I was so focused on creating a family that nothing else mattered to me. I wasn't asking God who was the best mate for me and my daughter. I was trying to do it all on my own. I was with someone who treated me horribly. He always told me how I wouldn't amount to anything without him. For a season I believed that. I constantly cried asking God why? I constantly cried asking God to take it away! God couldn't take it away until I was ready to shut that door and leave that relationship in the past. Even after ending that relationship I jumped into a relationship with my husband. I knew without a doubt I loved my husband and he was the one for me but I was still opening that door for my ex. It wasn't until I seriously started seeking God that I understood why he wasn't taking that pain away. It was never in God's plan for me to hurt the way I have. It was of my own doing that led me into those situations.  I've come to realize my self worth isn't defined by any man that currently walks this earth but by God! I've learned to cut people loose whether it be friendships or relationships! I refuse to allow anyone to be in my life who is gonna constantly bring me down and make me miserable. God has instructed me to guard my heart. Psalms 4:23 At this point in life and everyday I will only be surrounding myself with people who love me and celebrate me! I wanna be around people who are gonna push me to break throughs and not break downs. If you want a man to respect you and know your worth you have to define your worth and set standards. Nobody else can do it for you! Whether you know it or not you attract what you are. If you're attracting drama and disrespect, look at yourself are you full of drama and disrespect? If you're attracting trash maybe you are a trash can and people feel as if they can dump their trash off on you. If you accept a mans cheating and lying and still take him back time and time again it's nobody's fault but your own that he continues to do as he pleases. Are constantly in the mirror with tight clothes on taking pictures of your back side or flaunting your boobs? You aren't gonna get a mans respect by doing that. You're only gonna attract dogs.You're sure not gonna get anybody's respect by constantly telling facebook or twitter everytime you have a problem whether it be in a friendship or relationship. Stop asking God to take away the pain if you're not willing to shut that door. You have to allow God to work in your life. You have to seek him everyday. You need to read your bible daily and pray daily not just when something bad happens. I serve an awesome and faithful God but I have to be faithful to him as well. So re evaluate your life and love yourself before you try to love anybody else.